#234 You Ask, We Answer - 38

On the last Wednesday of every month, we answer wedding planning questions from our listeners. These are always chock full of information that EVERYONE can benefit from. We have so much fun and we love our listeners for reaching out and interacting with us. Listen and learn, peeps!

Do YOU have a wedding planning question? Call and leave us a voicemail at 415-723-1625 -or- email us thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

Question #1 (Voicemail)

How can I involve my fiancé’s family, that lives in Texas, in the wedding planning and events?

Question #2

My fiancé and I live in NYC and are getting married in South Florida in the end of February 2022. We are planning on a smaller wedding of between 75-85 people. I am a planner by nature and we have already hired all of our major vendors (venue, caterer, photographer, florist/ designer, videographer, DJ, photo booth).

When is the appropriate time to either reach out to my designer (or any vendor for that matter) or expect her to reach out to me to discuss design ideas or changes? Would it be too much to ask her to do a walk through of the venue with us or meet with me at her showroom if we are down there in May, which is still 10 months out from our wedding?

Question #3 is not a question, but our listener Sarah wanted to share that she has grown to love her wedding dress more and more. Even though she did not cry or get emotional on the day she bought it.

Question #4

We plan to get married in October 2022. I’m trying to figure out what I want and can afford first. And we’re going to start looking at venues this month. I’m not a huge fan of traditional weddings, or the traditions that go along with them, but I’m concerned about ruffling feathers by not having a bridal party. I have a few people who I don’t want to choose between for MOH and I don’t want my future sister-in-law in my wedding and I know if I had a bridal party and excluded her I’d have lots of blowback. Also none of the guys that my fiancé would want as groomsmen would be able to afford the tux rentals so we’d have to foot that bill. I think by foregoing the bridal party entirely all of us will save money and hurt feelings, especially because we still intend to have these people be involved throughout the wedding in other ways

and with the Bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties. Does this seem reasonable? The first time I saw a wedding without a bridal party I couldn’t get it out of my head, it made too much sense to me.

Also because I want to skip the bridal party I don’t see the need to have an elaborate rehearsal dinner. Both of our families are not well off, but I feel like my MIL believes in the traditional wedding cost breakdown because shortly after our engagement she mentioned the rehearsal dinner would be covered by them. I’d much prefer she handle some other cost because our rehearsal is just going to be our parents, us, the officiant, and maybe 1-2 others (haven’t decided if I want a flower man or whatever). I need help here.

Links We Referenced:

The Big Wedding Planning Master Class

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