#243 You Ask, We Answer - 40

On the last Wednesday of every month, we answer wedding planning questions from our listeners. This month, we are talking about Masks, Furniture Rental, Transportation, uneven wedding party, invitation etiquette, and racist family members.

Question #1: Furniture Rental & Transportation

Fiancé and her are getting married in Northern California. Regulations are allowing 25% capacity, dropping guest list from 180 to about 45. It is possible that the number would change before their wedding in six months.

When and how should I book vendors that require knowing quantities? They are holding out on furniture rentals and a shuttle service. They do not want to put money down on the vendors until they know for sure how many guests there will be.

Question #2: Uneven Wedding Party

What to do if your significant other is very friendly and fun and has a TON of friends, where the other person has a smaller number of more intimate relationships. One person thinks it would be beautiful to just have one person each making up bridal party and standing with us when we say vows. That way expenses on guests are kept down since 5+ girls won’t have to buy dress’s, shoes, makeup, hair, etc. and the guys won’t have to all rent the same tux, shoes, etc. However, the other partner feels they want to recognize their friends with a 10+ person groomsmen party. HELP!!

Question #3: Invitations / Etiquette - Covid

I need to develop a message for the main invitation (for the remainder of the guests) that explains it is a small wedding and not everyone can attend it, but they are invited to the reception. We each have parents taking it personally that we can't invite additional people and feel the word "private" will offend people. Do you have any advice on how to word this on an invitation to these reception-only guests?

Question #4: Masks

I bought disposable masks and want to place them at a table we have at the entry of our home, but I don’t know what’s the best and safest way to present them. Do I use a glass box where people can open it and grab one, put them on a fancy serving tray? Should I individually wrap them in a plastic bag?

Question #5: Ooh hoo! Racist Cousins Invited to the Wedding

Since we have to assume SOME of the "problem" people will attend our wedding, how do we go about organizing the seating chart to minimize potential conflict? Any other tips not related to the seating chart would be great too!

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